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1. Popular Segments - Often Used For Class Promotion
Frightening Statistics of Childhood
What is happen to our children on their way to Adulthood?
Hey Mom (Long and short versions)
What will the name “Mom” come to mean to your children?
Images from the Journey of Motherhood
This short narrative traces the many phases of a motherhood, from infancy through great-grandparenting.
Getting Ready to Become a Dad
The joy and excitement of fatherhood can be traced to setting up the nursery.
Are you Listening to Me?
Classic example of the Repeating and Threatening Parent and where it leads.
Who is Shaping Your Child’s Identity
Sometimes you only have to listen to who your children imitate to discover who is having the greatest impact on their identity.
What Expectations to you Have for Your Spouse?
If as a couple, you do not define and agree ahead of time what a “helping hand” looks like around the house, then it is easy to default to what you saw your parents do for each other. For some, this might be good, for others not so good, especially if one had a mother or father who did everything. If that was the case, your home might look like this.
Cell Phone Etiquette
Cell phones are here to stay, and fortunately, so are a host of cell phone protocols governing their use.
Creating a Life Giving Home Environment
What does it mean and what might that look like in our home?
Where does Life Begin
A beautiful chalk art presentation demonstrating the source of all Life and God’s purpose for the family.
Set to music and stirring images is one of the most cited passages of Scripture. Psalm 139 speaks to God's personal knowledge of every person, past, present and future.
The same God, same message, same words, but two different perspectives relating to what God is saying and what God has already said.
2. Nifty Ideas and Practical Training Tips
Parking Lot Safety and Children
Keeping our children safe should be a priority concern for parents. Explained in this presentation is a practical way to insure a child’s safety in busy places when Mom or Dads attention might momentarily be redirected.
Self Control Training
How many times have you tried to slow your little “speedster” down with phrases such as “calm down,” “stop fidgeting,” “sit still,” only to discover it lasts about a millisecond? What does settle down look like to a toddler?
“Use Your Words”
When your toddler or preschooler is asking for something by pointing, grunting or whining, there is something parents can do in that moment that will encourage the child to ask for things appropriately.
Giving Instruction and Getting your Child's Attention
Parents experience more frustration at times of instruction than in any other single activity in parenting. Why is this? Because it is at the point of instruction that children decide to comply or not comply. Here is how you encourage compliance when giving instructions.
Traveling with Toddlers Through Time Zones
How do parents maintain a child's routine when traveling through a number of time zones? Here is how to do it.
Teaching Children the Three Voice Levels
You are home with a visitor in the middle of a conversation, when sudden your child begins shouting questions to you from another room. Shouting room to room is discourteous and disrespectful, but it can be curbed when children understand how and when to use the appropriate voice at the appropriate time.
Teaching Your Baby Sign Language
This is a wonderful way to bridge the season of your baby’s life between vocabulary comprehension and the spoken word. So often, a one-year old sitting in a highchair will become frustrated and begin to scream out of the lack of ability to communicate. While screaming is a form of communication, there is a better alternative.
Teaching Toddlers to Put Their Toys Away
Teaching a toddler to put his or her toys away when playtime is over can be challenging, but there are a few things parents can do to help their little ones acquire the "good" habit of cleaning up after playtime.
De-Binking the Binky
It's time. . . the pacifier has to go. Please understand that while your child will not experience any emotional setbacks when the pacifier is finally removed, you, the parent, might end up in therapy over this battle! Making the pacifier less appealing is the place to begin.
Getting Toddler Ready for a New Sibling
Preparing a toddler to welcome a sibling into the family seems to be a bigger concern for parents today than years gone by. We trust the following suggestions will help Mom, Dad and their child make a smooth transition.
The Crib to Bed Transition
This is a natural transition that children have made ever since the first bed was created. When can it be done, and what do parents need to consider in order to make it happen?
3. Children, Character Development and Moral Education
Moral Education: Introduction
Anne Marie Ezzo provides an introduction to moral education and the process of helping children internalize meaningful values, and then translate them into social skills.
Beliefs and Values: Distinctions That Lead to Difference Parenting
If nearly all parents believe in the same virtues, why is there such a behavioral disparity among children?" Answer: Just because parents believe in the same virtues, does not mean they all place the same value on those virtues.
Corollary Impact of Moral Training
One of the great misconceptions relating to moral education is the belief that it is an isolated category of training, and as such, has little influence on the other categories of development. To the contrary, instilling virtues, values, and behavioral expectations into children actually sets in place a critical cornerstone on which a child’s future success is established.
Moral Education Precept: One Standard Fits All
All children are different. Brothers and sisters can be as different from each other as the child next door. Every child has a unique temperament and personality combination that distinguishes him or her from all others. However, personality development and moral training are not the same thing. Here's an explanation of what that is true.
Introduction to the Human Conscience
Awakening within all children around three years of age is one of the most fascinating components of human development—the ability to make a distinction between right and wrong, honorable and shameful, and pleasing and offensive.
The Conscience and the "Moral Why"
Parents will often tell their children "what to do", but do not tell them "why they should do it." That distinction must be emphasized, because knowing how to do right and knowing why to do right are definitely two different things. The first speaks to moral action, the second to moral thought.
Introduction to Civility
If there is one word that can encapsulate the application side of moral truth, we believe the word is civility. This is not the generic “civility” tossed back and forth by political pundits, nor the conversations generated by public and private acts of incivility that makes more fodder for entertainment media. Rather, it is a civility deeply informed by the nature of God’s goodness.
Civility and Proper Greeting
Throughout the day, there are many opportunities to demonstrate civility. One of the more common expressions comes in the context of meeting and greeting someone for the first time. There are seven pro-social habits associated with greeting. Here is an example of civility put in practice.
Civility and Receiving a Compliment (Girls)
Teaching children how to graciously receive a compliment requires more than a simple "thanks". Here is an example of what we mean.
Civility and Receiving a Compliment (Boys)
Is there a different greeting and compliment protocol for boys than girls? Here's the answer.
Civility, Manners and Your Dinner Napkin
Teaching children how to properly use their napkin at mealtime is just one of the mealtime protocols all children should learn.
Civility, Manners and Asking for Food
What is the proper way to ask for a food item during mealtime? Here is an example of what not to do, and what to do.
Civility, Manners and Passing Salt and Peppers
Yes, even the passing of salt and pepper has a “good manners” protocol all children should learn.
Civility and Birthday Cards and Gift
Just as gift-giving cannot be detached from human emotions, neither can receiving a gift be detached from the emotions of the one who gave the gift. When it comes to birthdays, Christmas or special events, it is important that children learn how to communicate their appreciation to the giver of a gift.
Civility and Your Chair
Whether sitting in the board room, class room, at a restaurant, or at home, what happens to your chair once you push back from the table and stand up? Is it left out, or are you characterized by pushing it back to the table? Something so simple can reveal much about what is or is not in a person’s moral inventory.
Civility and the Grocery Shopping Cart
True civility considers and responds to the preciousness of others, even those who come behind us. There are times when we can pay courtesies forward. That is not always easy to do, because it requires that we anticipate a need, even before the moment of need arrives. Here is a common venue and common item we all can relate to—the grocery shopping cart.
What Earning Money Can Teach Children
Giving children an opportunity to earn money is a good way of helping them understand value and equity. Without gaining that understanding, it becomes difficult for children to fully appreciate the value of the item they are being asked to respect, including their own toys.
4. Most Common Mistakes Parents Make - What Not to Do!
The Threatening and Repeating Parent
How many times will you ask and how many times will it end up like this?
The Bribing Parent
When treats and scare tactics no longer work, some parents slip to this. What's wrong with this parent type?
When Parents Fail to Keep Each Other Informed
You spent weeks working on a particular behavior with your child, and you finely have a breakthrough and achieve your behavioral goal. Then one day you discover weeks of hard work are undone by your spouse. Here is an example of why you need to keep each other informed.
There are many ways to plan for your retirement. Rushing your children into activities before they are developmental ready should not be one of them. Maybe you have not rushed your child to the Tennis Court lately, but have you rushed your little sweetie in other behavioral activities that are way beyond his intellectual and social readiness or interest?
Baby "Brain" Enhancement Videos
Stimulating an efficient knowledge processing system during the critical first year and-a-half of life is a ‘must-attain’ goal for parents of a pretoddler. Videos marketed to make babies smarter is not a step in the right direction.
Parenting Outside the Funnel
To parent "outside the funnel" is a phrase that gives definition to those times when parents allow behaviors that are neither age-appropriate nor in alignment with a child’s moral and intellectual abilities.
Sending Right and Wrong Emotional Messages: Part One
The type of emotional messages we send to our children through the course of the day can build, strengthen, or weaken the neural-pathways of understanding.
Sending Right and Wrong Emotional Messages: Part Two
When a parent reinforces an emotion by responding with a similar emotion, the original emotion is reinforced, whether positive or negative.
Destroying Children with Flattery
When it comes to praising our children, our words should be uplifting and gracious, but equally important, they need to be honest and true. Flattering a child is dangerous business.
A Clean but Empty House
If a parent’s primary moral focus is on what their children do wrong, accompanied by the warning of what not to do the next time, and not balanced with instruction that teaches what is right and what the child should do, then ultimately the only thing a parent is doing is sweeping the house clean of behavioral “demons.” The child's moral house is still empty!
The Potato Principle
The Potato Principle warns parents not to fixate solely on the bad spots, because in time, the child’s “good” is no longer appreciated or seen. Parents then begin to measure their child’s goodness by the absence of bad. Like the potato, one is only good if there are no bad spots.
When Death Words Become Curses
Sometimes, well-intentioned parents wrongly shape their children’s identity by highlighting or focusing on the child’s weaknesses. By focusing on the weakness, parents are actually speaking a curse on the child. The curse becomes the child’s identity and that is what fuels unpleasant behaviors.
Your Children’s God Names
A God Name is the title that reflects their principle strength of character, that contributes to the shaping of their identity.
5. Life Series Lesson Support Relating to Unique Discipline Issues
The Six Childhood Transitions
The word “transition” speaks to the maturing process where old ways of seeing and doing things give way to new understanding, improved life skills, and meaningful behaviors. The more proactive parents are in understanding each transition of childhood, the better equipped they are in anticipating what’s around the next developmental corner. They are in a better place to lead and manage their children’s unfolding and increasingly complex world, rather than continually playing catch-up through correction.
Active, Passive and Micro Defiance
Not all expressions of childhood disobedience look or sound the same. While some children are opening defiant to parental leadership, other children show their contrary disposition in subtle passive ways. Often it is not a full blown protest in Mom or Dad’s face, but nonetheless, it is still disobedience in need of parental attention and direction.
When Your Child Lies
What is a lie and what should parents do when their child find deceit a more preferable option than a telling the truth? Here are three filters to assess what is going on and what type of correction would be the most appropriate.
Little Hands that Steal - Little Hearts that Cheat
Initially, pre-toddlers and toddlers take toys that do not belong to them, but they do so without the knowledge that such an action is morally wrong or offensive. However, once a child reaches preschool age, the fundamental knowledge that taking something belonging to another person is well within the child's moral understanding. The same is true with cheating. There comes an age when children understand the social meaning of "playing by the rules." How should a parent deal with stealing and cheating?
The Challenge of the Tattling Sibling
Children bring reports to their parents about siblings for many reasons; some are legitimate, and others are not. What can parents do to curb the habit of tattling?
Defusing Power Struggles
A power struggle results when parents fail to exercise their authority wisely. That is, they allow themselves to be forced into a “must win” situation over a seemingly minor conflict. There will be some early parent/child conflicts in which parental resolve must be victorious, but you should choose well which hill you’re willing to die on. Wise parenting is superior to power parenting.
6. Newborns and Babies - How do I . . .? (Step by step explanation on related topics)
How do you know if a baby is receiving a full feeding?
How do you recognize a baby's hunger cues?
How do you know if a baby is getting enough food?
How do you burp a baby?
How do you swaddle a baby?
How do you know when growth spurts occur?
How do you introduce a bottle to a breastfed infant?
How do you know when to start Baby on solid foods?
How do you introducing solid foods? An Introduction
How do you introducing solid foods? An Introduction
How do you mix baby cereal?
How do you introduce cereal into your baby's diet?
How do you avoid snack feeding once solid foods are offered?
How do you introduce vegetables into your baby's diet?
How do you introduce yellow vegetables to your baby's diet?
How do you introduce fruits to your baby's diet?
How do you introduce meats and juices to your baby's diet?
7. Infant - Toddler - Challenges and Fixes
Feeling Overwhelmed with a New Baby
C-Section Challenges and Changes Week One
C-Section- Needing Help
The Effect of Cumulative Fatigue
Chronic Postpartum Fatigue
Over Stimulating New Born During Wake-times
Getting Baby Back On Routine After Vacation
Eight-Month-Old Standing Up in Crib but Doesn't Know How to Get Back Down
High Chair Challenges and Warnings
Highchair challenges will require correction and realignment, which are all part of proactive and purposeful training.
Crying Pretoddler and the Church Nursery
Is this Separation Anxiety? Your ten month old has been doing fine when dropped off at the church nursery. Suddenly, one week she fights leaving Mom or Dad's side. Is this separation anxiety or is something else at play?
Eleven Month Old Suddenly Waking at Night
Managing a Your Toddler's Disappointment
Playpen Challenges and the Use of a Timer
Biting in the Church Nursery
Child biting is troublesome because it affects more than just the victims. It affects both sets of parents. Parents of the biter are often ashamed and frustrated over their child’s aggression. Parents of the victim are often angered by the behavior. What can and should a parent do?
When the Dog's Food is More Interesting Than Your Pretoddler's Toys
Understanding the training concepts of Substitution and Suppression.
8. Relating to Fathers
The Journey of Fatherhood
Getting ready to become a Dad, a new journey begins. A relationship filled with touch means there are no barriers, no private spaces. Touch among family members communicates a quality of intimacy that the other senses cannot achieve. For Dads, it all begins on day one.
The Touch Signature of a Father
The sensory messages children acquire from their parents, affect what they think and how they feel and, eventually, what they think and feel, will influence how they live. A father's tender touch is underestimated in modern parenting. It is powerful, persuasive, and life changing.
Most Important Job a Father Has
Rich Young speaks to dads about their priorities at home and the most important job they have.
Mimic versus Imitating and a Fathers Influence
A father’s influence grows exponentially during the toddler years as a child's ability to imitate takes over the child's ability to mimic. But children can only imitate the fatherly example in front of them.
A father's love communicated through the Five-Senses
Touch, taste, smell, sight and hearing are the five senses connecting us to the world all around us. Although children receive sensory input from many different sources in their developing world, there is no greater influence on sensory messaging than that which comes from Mom and Dad. Yet, the sensory "love signature" of each parent is so unique that, if there is a deficit from one parent, it cannot be made up by the other. What is Dad's role in sensory impute?
Fathers Speaking Words of Life
Speaking Words of Life to children is a foundational precept for the Growing Families community of parents. what does your everyday parenting language sound like? What kind of words are echoed throughout your home, neighborhood, or around your workplace? Are you characterized by speaking words of life to your children, or speaking words of death? Do you accent virtue or accent vice?
The Power of a Fathers Handwritten Note
Receiving an uplifting, handwritten note from Dad is one of the most powerful forms of encouragement a father can give his children, because it is one of the surest ways of letting his children know they belong in Daddy’s world. And that is always meaningful!
Children, Fathers and "Open Window" Moments
If a father can prove himself trustworthy during the vulnerable moments in the early years, such as during the “open window” moments, when he shows himself to be a good listener, the future reward is a son or daughter who will confide in him, seeking his wisdom and friendship.
A Father's Touch and Gender Implication
The touch of a mother and father are unique sensory signatures, and both have profound gender implications that cannot be minimized or duplicated by the other.
How Our Mood Sets the Moment
It is precisely because parents present themselves as ever-present role models throughout their children’s growing up years that the prevailing moods and patterns of speech displayed by Mom and Dad will often become their children’s guiding light.
When a father listens with all his senses it makes a world of difference to a child.
9. Relating to Marriage
The Three Prevailing Influences on a Healthy Home Environment
The prescription for a healthy home environment requires that parents gain understanding of the three prevailing influences that shape every child’s destiny.
As it was from the Beginning
A scrolling narrative of the journey of Marriage from Man's creation to the deception in the Garden of Eden. However, the Story of mankind and marriage does not end in judgment or shame. For out of His Heart of Love, God set out to rescue man and re-establish the priority of marriage a symbol of God's love.
When Do You Become a Complete Family?
The husband-wife relationship is a complete relationship, thus marriage forms a complete family. Children do not complete or make the family; they expand it.
Marriage and Childhood Security
There are certain aspects of the husband-wife relationship that children need to witness routinely, such as Mom and Dad enjoying each other as friends, not just parents. Anything less, is less for the children.
How the Family is Put Together
Priority family relationships are not arbitrary; they are not dictated by circumstances or social fads. Relationships within the family function best when each relationship is valued according to their purpose and God's design.
Speaking Words of Life
"Honey, please give me understanding."
10. General Parenting
Potty Training 1-2-3 (Complete Presentation)
Potty training doesn’t have to be complicated—and neither does a resource that explains it. While we can not make any promises, we can tell you that many of the moms we work with achieve the potty training success they hope for in a day or two. What made Potty Training 1-2-3 work for these moms is the combination of right timing, right method, and right motivation. Take a look.
Can Parents Control all Outcomes?
While parents cannot control all influences and outcomes of their children’s lives, then can control what type of home environment they create for their children.
Seven Death Concepts to Avoid
True civility not only encourages proper speech, but discourage inappropriate words and gestures. Here are seven “death” concepts that every child needs to understand and avoid.
The First Law of Correction
In childhood, there are two realms of wrong. The first speaks of unintentional and non-malicious mistakes associated with a child’s age and lack of understanding, the second realm is where a child knowingly and intentionally chooses to act in defiance without regard to consequence or injury to self or others. What are these two realms called and what is the appropriate correction for each one?
Challenges Unique to Mothers Working Outside the Home
For some moms, working outside the home also creates emotional stresses in the form of doubt, guilt or questions. You might look at your various roles and wonder as a wife, “Am I neglecting my husband?” As a mom, “Am I neglecting my children?” What can help Mom and the Family during seasons of employment outside the home?
Managing Your Child's Emotions
When parents over react to a child's momentary out-of-control emotions, parents are only reinforcing the very responses they hope to eliminate. Learning how to manage your child's emotions is better than simply reacting to them emotionally.
The Purpose of Rules and Restrictions
Rules and regulations is part of everyone's life. But when it comes to obedience training and children are rules and restriction put in place to prevent children from having fun, or to ensure that they will have fun, while being safe and considerate of others.
Respecting the Property of Others
The duty of every parent is to instill a high degree of respect for the property rights of others. That process begins by respecting the person. The object of ownership is not the basis of respect; the owner is. The object is merely the target of respect.
An Introduction to “Why?”
"Why?" is part of everyone's life. Knowing "Why" something is done is not the same as knowing "How" it is done. But "How" something is done only has value when you know the "Why" behind it.